Nowhere ... near ....離...很遠

Words like `fabulous','wonderful`,`great`,`absolutely gorgeous', they don`t exist in Cantonese. It`s good, or it`s O.K. It`s very blunt, Cantonese. I appreciate that there are no fake words, but it`s hard to switch channels, sometimes,after.....

Dec 5, 2009

2009.12.5 - 晴



最近都有太陽,能感覺到陽光的溫度真好。風吹在臉上很疼,但是如果起風才會出太陽。為了那點暖意。我寧願忍受那點疼。

格格不入。奇怪的是他們還是我們,或者是這個世界?

有人想從我口中得到承諾。我卻不願意說。我願意應下一個約定。有的人卻偏偏不在意。因果循環。莫非真的如此。

說了一些以前不願意說起的事情,似乎是輕鬆一點了,有的事,壓在心裡很久,但總是像是找不到合適的收留的位置。

前幾天看到一句話 在年輕的時候。要狠狠地愛,深深的痛,然后對愛情免疫。我愛了,但是狠不起來,或許說,我不知道我是不是愛了。或是,我天生就獲得了免疫呢。


Nov 30, 2009

長島冰茶 Long Island Ice Tea

長島冰茶


好入口

後勁挺強

這杯酒

有"我很寂寞"的涵意



今晚

微醺飄飄然的感覺

真好



已經刻意放慢速度了

挺好入口

入口的順暢度

會隨著可樂的比例有差別





等覺得暈的時候

已經想睡了



酒量有這麼差嗎?

我自己也懷疑著

不知是最近太累了。。。。



人生的路很長,也很短。。。

愛情却在我們的生命裏,主宰著我們的幸福。。。

長島冰茶的甜,把苦都淹沒了。。。

就象愛情的苦,被瞬間的幸福掩飾著。。。



Long Island Ice Tea...美麗了瞬間,

忘却了痛苦的同時,你又得到了永遠的幸福嗎。。。



Nov 10, 2009

Charlie Bit My Finger

I still remember last month in a newstory in Apple Daily about about the YouTube movie "Charlie bit my finger". When I found the movie on YouTube and clicked to play it, I was number 130,277,879 visitor to do so. The theme of the newsstory is what it “tells us about Web.”


Here is some of the flavor:

But here’s the really interesting part: Tens of thousands of people who saw this clip did more than just smile and surf on.

They “mashed” it up with other media (”Charlie Bit Sarah Palin”), created a song about it (”Charlie bit my finger – The Musical”), created their own versions (”Shoshi bit my finger … again!”), posted their own comments, shared it with friends, or otherwise interacted with the original clip like ("Charlie bit my finger Remix")

This is the world of Web. It is the evolution of Web platforms that are supporting millions of simultaneously connected global conversations. And it promotes the idea that a community is more powerful than an individual.

The point of this new media landscape is to create something and share it with the world. When we post anything to the Web, we are begging for a conversation. We want to be ridiculed, called out, accepted, talked about, linked to, and, most important, not ignored.

It’s easy to criticize the rise of participatory social media as a giant waste of time. And it’s true that a fair amount of what’s being created is adolescent.

But that criticism misses the point: This trend is setting the stage for greater long-term engagement. It’s an indicator that people are working to find new ways to collaborate and to be part of something larger than they are individually. The sheer immensity of the participation is the story.
 

Oct 22, 2009

A Day of Myself in Hospital - 20 October 2009 (Sunny Day .Grey Sky)


Oct 15, 2009

Thank You For Hearing Me

Lehman Brothers Metaphor



Lehman Brothers Metaphor - "Breaking up is just like when the funds you invested goes bankrupt, you can get nothing from your investment coz the bank/relationship no longer exits."

I was extremely amazed that how similar these two investments are -- investing in a fund and investing in a relationship. When a relationship fails, it's like a bank going bankrupt. You lost all the valuables you gave in and your faith, leaving you a broken heart. Others can only shows sympathy but can't get you out of your misery, not even the government. All kinds of everything reminds you of what the investment seemed to promised to return. Passing by a restaurant you two used to patronized, drinking the cocktail you used to tease other with, looking at the pictures you took...everything used to bring a smile on your face now is haunting you days and nights. The sweet moment you shared popping up in your mind is simply like a stab in your heart.

In monetary investment, you lost your money or your faith to the system. In a relationship, however, you invested much more, your love, your time, your money and of course your heart. That's why the damage of a broken relationship is beyond measurement. And there's no ROI in a relationship.

Another similarity of relationship and investment failure is that people's sympathy fades away. You might be very angry when you first saw the raging victims of Leman Bro protesting on TV but when the news is repeating day after day, your anger or sympathy is becoming milder and milder till the day you simply find the news annoying. Same story for breakups, women are very self conscious about their grieving behavior.

No matter if it's an investment in a fund/stock/equality or a relationship, when it goes bad, there's no one but You, and only you can pick yourself up and get your life back to track. Salute to all the survivors of the econmoic tsunami and traumatic breakups!







Love








Sep 17, 2009

Dress from My Dream Last Night

This Dress was in my dream last night .....

Sep 16, 2009

The Singing Butler by Jack Vettriano




Dance in the darkness, dance with the wind, dance with the flying catkins, dance with singing waves on the beach.


Dance with closed eyes, because in that way, the feeling flows stronger and clearer, maybe only then the eyes of our hearts open and we become more sensitive and expressive. Just like when we did blind contour drawing, we captured the facts better.

This is the most romantic painting I have ever seen. None of the figures show a clear face. Right, can you see the clear face of happiness? yet it’s already and always in your heart, it’s a journey of discovering life.

So dance with the girl in red dress, no matter whoever she is and whatever it takes.












Sep 15, 2009

Expats in Hong Kong

Wondering the number of "gweilos" we see on in Hong Kong? .


As the former British colony of its return to Chinese rule since years, figures show the number of western expatriates has fallen every year.



Most of the analysts say that the fall in the western population is caused by increasing localization of jobs as well as its expensive international schools and worsening air pollution for them to set up their family...True??



Perhaps we still see many of them, even so many of them in the streets or at Lan Kwai Fong, Wanchai or Tsim Sha Tsui. But probably they are only in Hong Kong as tourists, or having a contract job and are only trying to live the Hong Kong life. Realizing that the pollution is not getting any better and more jobs are getting localized, there's more than just money Hong Kong can offer...True is not....*Sigh.



Anyhow, by nature of human beings, they like to create categories. Classifying helps us determine where we fit, helps us to remember, and defines the world around the community. A lot of people would classify the expats they have seen or met.



The Exploiter


This is always a male. They come here to take advantage of the cheap labor, and attractive women who want a better life with those old expats. Most of the times, you'll see them in bars, high-end shopping malls or resorts and villa. They always have a woman much younger and far more attractive than themselves.



From my experience, they are typically Australian or British. They could care less about learning the language or customs as well as the real life of Hong Kong. Everyone here should bow at their feet. Many have wives or lovers back in their home country, and a local "wife" or a local "girlfriend" here.



The Lifestyle Seekers


These are mostly men and a few women who have come to live lavishly in a low cost environment. They are usually older or more mature in their middle age. Many have a local spouse who is far better than they could attain had they remained in their country of origin and very likely married for looks or pretty facade body. Others definitely married someone like they would have at home - someone who makes them happy. Most have decided that this is where they want to be for an extended period of time. Most of them learn the language - thanks to their spouse (what British colonialists would have called a "sleeping dictionary") - have learned the customs and live like a local.



The Passing Through


This group is either young professional on their first internship or someone who, with their family, are veteran expats on another expat contract. There are a lot more women in this group, though still dominated by men.

The Passing Through group is here on a temporary contract with no intentions of putting down roots and staying for a long time (though, some Lifestyle Seekers did start this way).Embassy workers, product/brand managers, and financial professionals most commonly fall in this category. Most I've met are on their 3rd or 4th contract and already know where they are going after this one.



Well, This is indeed the typical expat symptom in Hong Kong and Asia still.



Agree??










My favorite paintings from Le Thong in Zee Stone Gallery


Sep 14, 2009

Rain


I can hear the almost silent tap of rain..



Droplets of water come in contact with skin.

And the rain is the fine line between the past and the future.

Sopping wet hair hides all my glorious shame.

Sitting here with agony on one side and anguish on the other.

Though I dare not reveal my hidden feelings.

Solitude weighs down my heart as the rain continues.

Puddles of water conjure my memories.

And they reflect my lonely self.

But despite all the melancholy thoughts.

Despite the bittersweet tears of the clouds that fall endlessly.

I must admit I love walking in the rain.

Because no one will know I'm crying.

Sep 8, 2009

The One

Just a bit of thought in last few days, I was thinking about the concept of ‘The One’ . Look at those people around us, they fall for another person in the midst of the euphoriam, they often believe they have found ‘The One’. What if ‘the One’ dies or leaves them? Or worse the boringness of ‘The One’ starts? Is that person still ‘The One’ or have they got ‘The wrong One’?
If it is the former, they can carry on believing that that person was indeed ‘The One’, Anyone who is not ‘The One’ is seen as necessarily a poor substitute.
Else, they decide that this person was not The One they’d been waiting for, and they are yet to meet him or her. this also applies of course if they themselves go off ‘The One’ and end the relationship.
Always, the concept of ‘The One’ which is the root cause of the problems most of the times. It usually comes from a fundamental belief in lack of faith in life to provide abundant opportunities. Of course the particular person we are with is great and may tick all our boxes and we may be happy to spend the rest of our days with them, but that is not to say that someone else could not be equally good for us.
So do I believe in ‘The One’?
Of course the answer has to be ‘Yes and No’.........

Sep 3, 2009

The Game

I never like to read books on relationship but this book really caught my eyes.
For me, this kind of book is bullshit, the authors just write, What should or should not do. People are talking about this book since months and I don't want to be left-out. Therefore I start to read this and the other books that Neil written.
I thought some men are having their own inborn pick up talent. Until I read this book and I start to change my mind. Actually it can be learnt and trained up with time.
This talent is important to men, I believe. Most women always attracted to sweet-talking men even though they don’t have looks, a lot of those ladies out there still like the shallow sweet talk men.
Also, in my observation when I was in public, I notice a lot of shorter men are actually natural pickup artists while taller men are usually blur and facade.
Based on experience and observation! No offense to those so-called tall and handsome guys out in the community.
Some couples take things for granted. They don’t communicate with each other the way they should do. Communication breakdown is the most common reason for separation. Everything becomes a routine until they become bored with each other. They all assume their spouses to read their mind without talking. Some people shout and argue to each other, some people just keep quiet, some people just don’t bother and move on with their lives, some people write in their blog, some people talk to their friends or strangers, and some people start another affair…
Don't get me wrong, This is just one of the elements in our life

Teddy Bear Familly Reunion

Sep 1, 2009

Work to Live or Live to Work

Have you been asking yourself with the question Live to work or work to live philosophy?
Do you work so you can live or you live so you can work?
Work to live is an ideal situation where the reason for working is to provide means of livelihood.
There is a purpose of doing something. At the end of the day, we look forward to spending quality time doing what we like to do.
On the other hand live to work is a way many people are forced to do. We wish that the days were longer so we can squeeze more time to finish stuff.
In Hong Kong we have an hour lunch break. Although it is not being enforced strictly. it is sometimes hard to find seats during lunch time.
Worse, there are those who are given 30 minutes break. .
Apparently this is an unhealthy way to live your working life in Hong Kong. So every second counts as shown on brisk walking citizens who read newspapers while walking or in the MTR / buses or ferry.
If you work 10 to 12 hours a day, your ultimate relaxation is sleep. I myself have lots of plans of things to do on weekends but the next time I blink, it's Sunday night and working week is again in my midst.
We need to relax as a way to replenish our energy. Unfortunately, this is treated as waste of time by many people in Hong Kong who can't afford such "luxuries". And who could blame them? Companies shrinking in workforce numbers only mean more workload for fewer people.
In a way it shows Hong Kong people are hardworking, but isn't it also a sign of inefficiency?
Just asking, because in my opinion, I think many European countries practice long lunch breaks, enjoy lengthy vacations and still maintain their status.
I don't know much about how things work there so feel free to enrich and enlighten my mind.






Aug 31, 2009

Time for Love.. Time for Freedom..

Bartok Concerto for Orchestra, I Introduzione

Favorite of the week =)

Le Voyage du Ballon Rouge

Agnès Varda - Cléo de 5 à 7

Aug 28, 2009

The Stranger in the Mirror 镜子裏的陌生人

想要看到另一個世界。像愛麗絲一樣漫游。可好像除了黑暗和自己,什麽也看不見。


越來越明白之前自己模糊的事情。我會慢慢懂得你說的話,知道怎樣去做。因爲我會思念著你。直到我們老去的那一天。

在鏡子那頭,會有一個不一樣的世界嗎。像我們這個世界一樣嗎。那太令人失望了。即使不可以換元生活,我也希望那是一個純淨的沒有一絲雜質的地方。我不迷信,但對于那些關于輪回的東西却深信不疑。人生就是輪回,終究確信有報應。你信嗎。違背自己 太多會有報應的。早晚而已。

躲到鏡子裏吧。它不會揭穿你。它只會照見一個真實的你。你究竟是什麽樣的?我都找不到了。那些重複的聲音,文字將我對你的信賴再次打破。打破,修 好。打破,修好。它終有壞掉的一天。爲什麽你要一遍一遍的考驗它的質量呢?它壞掉了,不會有修好的那天了。

You can’t see me in the dark.

Still,I can’t.

lost myself in the dark.

Hatred also means love.

But you are not the one who I will give this love.

You know.I struggle myself to believe the truth that you are a stranger now.

Bye and hello, my stranger…..

Aug 27, 2009

The Last Minutes

In the darkness of time
Why is it dark at night?
Perhaps, before, the universe was still your age, and the skies were shining with this light, but since the world has got older it is going far away.
And when i look at the sky between the stars, i can see only what has disappeared.
The last minutes of thinking
I think therefore i am, the game of beeing is no more the same as the game of thinking, why?
The feeling i have of existence is still not mine. It's a reckless feeling, it was born in me but...
Nothing lasts, there has to be some limits in the number of books, all the throats togheter, all the spirits together, and all their production are not worth any pittance.
Because this is the end of everything
The last minutes of memory
The unsuppressible
The last minutes of love
Yes, you are young, in the full of your strength, but i'm going to die, farewell. I don't want to leave you, i don't want to get you back, nothing, nothing.
My knees are on the ground already, broken, nobody tells me about anything, you wounded me and i told you so.
We don't love each other anymore, we never did
Too little what one can say, always one has to speak
The last minutes of fear
I don't know what's gonna come afterwards, i cannot and do not want to know it. But if this is what i want, if i want glory, celebrity, if wanna be loved by men, i'm not guilty of desiring this indeed, of desiring only this.
The last minutes of eternity
Live his life
The last minutes of Cinéma
Last vision
Evening, he says. Evening, she says, Evening, they say.
The last minutes of silence

Days of empty thoughts under the sky

Listen to the colours...
I lay down here
Just my thoughts and me
The pictures swirl inside my mind


Forever and endlessly
I trap one in my palm
A thousand more assault me


In the depths I cant see
I try to focus on my thoughts
But they escape me easily

I see a splash of colour
Try to see my thoughts
Listen to the colours
See the sounds

Full of empty thoughts

Behind My Name - Pik Yin 碧妍

That is me - "Pik Yin"... Name not picked from any dictionary or historiacal person in the history.


It's originated from my Chan's ancestor and also from my favorite person in my life - my dad.


Am I really as my name interprets.. or it's just purely me.. You judge.....

碧 - Pik - Pure and Clear as a piece of green jade.

碧,石之青美者。——《说文》

高山,其下多青碧。——《山海经·西山经》

昆仑碧树瑶树在其北。——《淮南子·地形》

锡碧金银,众色炫耀。——《汉书·司马相如传》

碧水东流至此回。——唐·李白《望天门山》

一碧万顷。——宋·范仲淹《岳阳楼记》
 
姸 - Yin - Clever, fine and beautiful

妍,技也。一曰慧也。——《说文》。按,慧巧之意。

浪迹无妍蚩。——江淹《杂体诗》。注:“犹美恶也。”

妍蚩好恶,可得而言。——陆机《文赋序》

日高日上,日上日妍。——明·李渔《闲情偶寄·种植部》

面丑心妍,利居众后,责在人先。——唐·韩愈《送穷文》

The Lady From Nowhere - By Kalun Leung

Aug 14, 2009

Friday

星期五,燈光下異常頹廢,


頭頂上的冷氣出風口把疲憊的臉吹得更乾荒,沒有力氣再牽動一點嘴角,

窗外的燈不由自己閃著諂媚的光,撩不起一點歡喜的欲望;

累積了一個禮拜的疲累,兩天後還要未完待續,

煩擾著誰誰誰、想不通誰誰誰、而誰誰誰又為何一定要這樣、

每個人累積了一禮拜的煩悶總要有個爆炸性出口;

這時定神一看原來我塞在一個白荒荒的隧道裡,

腦袋忽然整個斷訊、紊亂的思考全被隔絕在隧道之外,

霎那間我整個身子癱軟著往後一靠,讓所有疲累跟煩擾吸進椅背裡,

慶幸還有個地方可以與世隔絕...

就由它去吧,隨著這城市的血管緩緩流動,讓我被包圍讓我被淹沒...

人不過是蜉蝣,怎能承載那些超過自己重量的擔子?

車子出了隧道,又進入另一條不知所以的車水馬龍。

Friday,是深不見底的 blue。

Aug 13, 2009

記得生命中美好的事物 - Remember Nice Things

記得生命中美好的事物,在我們常常記得過去種種,去比較、去計較,弄得自己人生不快樂。常常不滿足,人生總是缺這缺那,太多的慾望淹沒了我們。

你我都擁有那在生命角落的人所求之不得的記憶,我們可以記得一切,當然包括我們認為理所當然的,你能想像有一天遺忘你所愛的人嗎?

記憶是人最美好的天賦,但有時遺忘卻是快樂的竅門。

快樂與幸福往往是觀點問題而已,若你選了痛苦那一邊,只好演起悲傷腳本,何不選擇能夠被記下的美好回憶。

Aug 1, 2009

Superb =)

Read this today and think that it's cool to share it with you.. Although it's not new at all =)


It's something awakening...

1.) Take a 10-30 minute walk every day. And while you walk, smile. It is the ultimate antidepressant.

2.) Sit in silence for at least 10 minutes each day. Buy a lock if you have to.

3.) Always pray and make time to exercise.

4.) Spend more time with people over the age of 70 And under the age of Six.

5.) Eat more foods that grow on trees and plants And eat less foods that are manufactured in Plants.

6.) Drink green tea and plenty of water. Eat broccoli, almonds & walnuts.

7.) Try to make at least three people smile each day.

8.) Clear your clutter from your house, car, desk and let new and flowing energy into your life.

9.) Don't waste your precious energy on gossip, issues of the past, negative thoughts or things you cannot control.


Instead, Invest your energy in the positive present moment.
 10.) Realize that life is a school and you are here To learn. Problems are simply part of the curriculum


That appear and fade away like algebra class .......but the lessons you learn will last a lifetime.

11.) Eat breakfast like a king, lunch like a layman And dinner like a begger .

12.) Life isn't fair, but it's still good.
 13.) Life is too short to waste time hating anyone.

14.) Don't take yourself so seriously. No one else does.

15.) You don't have to win every argument. Agree to disagree.

16.) Make peace with your past so it won't screw up the present.

17.) Don't compare your life to others. You have no Idea what their journey is all about.

18.) Ladies - Go on and burn those 'special' scented Candles, use the 600 thread count sheets, the good China and wear fancy clothes now. Stop waiting for a special occasion. Every day is special.

19.) No one is in charge of your happiness except you.

20.) Frame every so-called disaster with these Words: 'In five years, will this matter?'

21.) Forgive everyone for everything.

22.) What other people think of you is none of your Business.

23.) Time heals almost everything. Give time, time!

24.) However good or bad a situation is, it will Change.

25.) Your job won't take care of you when you are Sick. Your friends will. Stay in touch with them.

26.) Get rid of anything that isn't useful, beautiful or joyful.

27.) Envy is a waste of time. You already have all You need. God provides, remember?!

28.) The best is yet to come.

29.) No matter how you feel, get up, dress up and show up.

30.) Do the right thing!

31.) Call your family often.

32.) Each night before you go to bed complete the Following statements: 'I am thankful for __________.'


Today I accomplished _________.

33.) Remember that you are too blessed to be stressed.

34.) Enjoy the ride. Remember that this is not Disney World and you certainly don't want a fast


Pass. You only have one ride through life so make The most of it and enjoy the ride.


Jul 1, 2009

Love Letter to Myself 給自己的情書

Not easy to state the change you made
說不出來 你改變了我什麼


If I’m alive now,then I was dead


假如我還活著 那麼 我已死過


Though, like a stone, unbothered by it


儘管 那就像是一顆右轉時不會被自己的側臉所干擾的石頭般


Staying put according to habit.


只是根據習慣的停放擺在那


That wasn’t it. I slept,say:a snake


但那不是它。「那其實是一條蛇。」我說。






Masked among black rocks as a black rock


躺在一堆黑石頭之間 把黑色石頭的側臉像衣服一樣 穿戴在身上


Like my neighbors,taking no pleasure


像我的鄰居般,居住著在隔壁若無其事的存在著,不帶來什麼樂趣


In the million perfectly-chiseled


接續以百萬種完美無暇的手術刀雕刻


Cheeks alighting each moment to melt


我的臉頰對齊在每個瞬間去銷融


My cheeks of basalt.They turn to tears,


我的臉頰成為一類玄武岩。他們成為淚水,


Angels weeping over dull natures,


天使在無趣的自然布幕背景上啜泣,


But didn’t convince me. Those tears froze.


但是這並說服不了我。那些淚水結冰結塊。崩裂


Each dead head had a visor of ice


每一顆死人頭顱頂上都拿的到一份眼淚


And I slept on like a bent finger..


然後我睡的像一根彎了的手指。


The first thing I saw was sheer air


先看見澄澈鮮豔如虹的透明空氣


And the locked drops rising in a dew


然後是被封鎖住的雨水隨晨霧上升浮起


Limpid as spirits. Many stones lay


靜止清晰的如同靈魂。數以倍計的石頭窩躺於其後


Dense and expressionless round about


密度濃稠而少有例外的旋轉、旋繞


I didn’t know what to make of it.


我甚至不知道那是什麼使之成形的


I shone, mica-scaled, and unfolded


我眨眼 眼睛收集摺疊 柔軟如雲母礦鱗片的景象


To pour myself out like a fluid


如同水流澆灌我自己


Among bird feet and the stems of plants.


在鳥類的腳和樹木的根莖之間爬行


I’wasn’t fooled. I knew you at once


我沒有被玩弄。我知道,我曾經見過你不只一次






Tree and stone glittered,without shadows


樹和石頭交錯閃爍揉捏彼此,無須陰影的媒介


My finger-length grew lucent as glass


我的手指迅速發育成熟長大像透明的水杯


I started to bud like a March twig


身體開始開花發芽像條三月的莖脈


An arm and a leg,an arm, aleg


一隻手拉著一隻腳,先是一隻手,然後是一隻腳。


From stone to cloud, so I ascended


石頭抵達了雲朵,所以我逐漸上升


Now I resemble a sort of god


現在我看來神似某種神明


Floating through the air in my soul—shift


垂降浮升起空氣於我靈魂夾層中


Pure as a pane of ice. It’s a gift


脆薄透明純粹如冰。而這是一封來不及寄出的情書






Jun 30, 2009

喜歡的,不喜歡的 Like and Dislike

喜歡低調、謙虛的人;不喜歡隨時想插話、想接上話題的人
Like those that are subtle and humble people. Dislike those that like to jump into conversation.



喜歡誠實的人;不喜歡有心機的人
Like those Honest people. Dislike those tricky and complex ones.



喜歡體貼自信的人;不喜歡過於自大膨脹的人
Like those caring people. Dislike those that are ego.




喜歡可以放心說話的人;不喜歡容易給人壓力的人
Like people that are comfortable to talk with. Dislike those that are made me stresseful...


我覺得人一直在改變
I think we are all changing ..... along the time....


有些喜歡的不會變
Those that you like would never change.


有些想法一直在變
Some thoughts would ever changing...

就算是同一個人
Even its same person

但在不同時間
But at a differnet time...

再遇到
If you meet again.

也像是完全不同的另一個人
Perhaps you would discover its totally another new born ones......










Apr 27, 2009

Thanks for sharing

收到別人forward過來的email,覺得內文實在很有意思,說出了人與人之間的緣起緣滅。每個人在自己的生命裡出現,總有成就我們的原因,但亦有時間性。當然有些人會是life time的,那自然是for life time lesson。

Email 原文如下 :

People come into your life for a reason, a season or a lifetime.

When you know which one it is, you will know what to do for that person. When someone is in your life for a REASON, it is usually to meet a need you have expressed.

They have come to assist you through a difficulty, to provide you with guidance and support, to aid you physically, emotionally or spiritually. They may seem like a godsend and they are. They are there for the reason you need them to be.

Then, without any wrongdoing on your part or at an inconvenient time, this person will say or do something to bring the relationship to an end.

Sometimes they die. Sometimes they walk away. Sometimes they act up and force you to take a stand.

What we must realize is that our need has been met, our desire fulfilled, their work is done. The prayer you sent up has been answered and now it is time to move on.

Some people come into your life for a SEASON, because your turn has come to share, grow or learn.

They bring you an experience of peace or make you laugh.

They may teach you something you have never done.

They usually give you an unbelievable amount of joy.

Believe it, it is real. But only for a season.

LIFETIME relationships teach you lifetime lessons, things you must build upon in order to have a solid emotional foundation..

Your job is to accept the lesson, love the person and put what you have learned to use in all other relationships and areas of your life.

It is said that love is blind but friendship is clairvoyant.

Thank you for being a part of my life, whether you were a reason, a season or a lifetime.

Mar 11, 2009

The Little Prince - Lessons of Love and Reality

These are some of the lessons I re-learned in this book.
1) Adults must be careful not to discourage children. A child trying to communicate something important through a picture can be easily crushed and disheartened.
2) Adults need to learn to listen properly to children.
3) Each one of us lives on a separate planet, not just men are from Mars and women from Venus. We can choose to remain on our planet and remain delusional (everyone is an admirer, a subject, or a tiresome bother) or courageously voyage to other planets to meet and try to understand others.
4) There is always the choice of the snake. Is it a good idea to talk to them, and listen to the seduction of Thanatos?
5) "matters of consequence" are so unimportant when another being is distressed and needs to be heard and comforted.
6) A planet or a life needs to be well cared for every day. "Children, beware of the baobabs!" A tiny seed can grow innocuously into a plant which seems lovely but it can grow huge and split your life open. (I think of addictions, vicious personality traits, bad habits and the like - the wolves you feed.) Volcanoes need to be cleaned out daily - don't let anger smoulder and build up until it erupts and covers everyone with lava.
7) The fox teaches us that it is good to be tamed, even if it means we become vulnerable to loss. Whenever we look at the fields of wheat, we remember that though we will never see the Little Prince again, his hair was wheat-coloured and full of light... The fox reminds us that everything that is most real and important is invisible to the eye, that it is the time we "waste" caring for those we love that makes them so dear to us...
8) Water of life - being in the now, enjoying the fruit of our labour, being content to spend time working toward something and savouring it...
9) Singing, laughing or crying stars - loving someone changes everything in the universe for us, irrevocably. We will never be alone again though we may at times feel bereft and forsaken.

Feb 17, 2009

Connections

Now you see me now you don’t



I let you gaze into my soul


For one brief second then I won’t


And in return I catch a brief glimpse of the real you






We choose the ones we let behind the façade


Of our true selves and share a knowing glance


For one brief moment let down our guard


And let our eyes speak a thousand words






Then once we’ve made a firm connection


We no longer need play at ‘peek-a-boo’


The shutters come down and true feelings


Can be revealed and then shine through






We give and take in equal parts


One day we give the next receive


Fulfilling bodies, souls and hearts


And satisfying all desires and needs






With child-like trust without a word


We take the hands of fellow men


And stride the earth now self-assured


As we share our strengths and face our fears






But take time apart and find a quiet place


To make yet another important connection


Focus within yourself and your own space


Use these precious moments for inner-reflection